The old cliche was “a square peg in a round hole” and this image portrays a round peg and a rectangle. In either case, the fit is off. Have you ever felt that way? As if you didn’t belong? Sometimes it is a clique at work or wearing clothes that are a bit too dressy or casual. Maybe you are the only one in the group who hasn’t seen the movie or read the book. Maybe your taste is music doesn’t match up or your knowledge of wine is lacking. Recall the way it felt. Probably no one said anything derogatory. (Maybe they were secretly admiring your independent spirit.) We often imagine what people are thinking about us, with no particular proof. We become self conscious, maybe even excuse ourselves or leave early. Having confidence in ourselves can be a learned skill. There are many occasions when we look back on behavior with embarrassment or puzzlement. Those negative memories tend to stick with us. The moments of pride are more easily brushed aside with humility. We seem to think that it is boastful to congratulate ourselves for a job well done. Savoring the positive is important for building a foundation of confidence and energetic action. Make sure there are people in your life that will remind you of your achievements and accomplishments.