Sometimes circumstances are such that, though friends want to help, there is nothing they can do. Maybe there is illness. Maybe there is an administrative problem that requires time to resolve. Maybe the mail will be bringing a letter of rejection or acceptance. Maybe the full extent of damages will not be established until everything dries out. Maybe a check has to clear. Maybe the plane has to land on time to make the connecting flight. Our actions will not impact the results. I remember when the mother of a dear friend was very ill. In my kitchen were candles for birthdays and black outs. I lit one, took a picture, and sent it with a text message. It was all I could think of to do from a distance. In those moments my thoughts and prayers were with the family and it made me feel closer. Though I don’t know why, the act of lighting candles always makes me more conscious of the needs of others. Literally or figuratively, light a candle and settle your busy mind long enough to concentrate on someone else. When we need the help someone will be there for us.