Wishing You Had a Magic Wand?

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Many children grow up hearing fairy tales and stories about magic spells and magic wands. When I saw this one, many of those stories came back to me. I then remembered a story I told my children when we were stuck in traffic. It was a hot summer day and we were returning from a fun day out, maybe from the Bronx Zoo. Everyone was tired and cranky, hungry and thirsty. My patience was wearing thin and we were all anxious to be home. I said, “I wish the windshield wiper fluid was really cold lemonade”. They laughed, and so did I. They started to come up with more “wishes” that the car could provide. Flying over the traffic was one. Soft serve ice cream in the glove compartment was another. They were old enough to know that our conversation was whimsical and young enough to make believe with abandon. I learned that day that pretending to believe in magic is therapeutic, that it relieves tension and distracts from annoyance. Being wise enough not to depend on magic and playful enough to say “What if…” can provide a useful strategy for decreasing stress and increasing resilience. ABRACADABRA!