Remember when you were little and the magazines had features where you had to find the differences in the two pictures? Sometimes it was obvious and sometimes it was subtle. I found myself thinking about that as I looked at this photo of frost on the windshield. I took the picture after a morning walk, when I was disappointed that I could not capture the glistening frost on a wooden barricade. My first thought was that there are no identical snowflakes. We all learn that as youngsters. It would take some real work to thoroughly describe the differences among each of these distinct shapes. That led to thoughts about the human race; We share physical attributes, body systems, brain activity, growth patterns, and motor development. We share similarities in emotions, attachment, survival requirements, and many other physiological functions. How we assess others can make a difference in our rapport building skills. Do we look for the similarities or the differences. I find myself connecting with people who have the letter Z in their surname, because my maiden name had one. I want to be friends with anyone who likes Norman Rockwell art. Potato chips and ice cream are an instant link. Finding the differences is a great way to learn something new. In a recent conversation with someone I have “known” for over 30 years, I learned a lot about how museums operate. Another time I learned about free tax prep service at the library. How can you use same/ different to expand your world?